So often we want to make changes to our habits, sometimes we know exactly what we need to do, but somehow it never eventuates or it isn't sustainable.
Change is so difficult because of these reasons…
1. We don’t fully understand why the change in question is needed.
2. We don’t fully understand how to make the change effectively.
3. The change we make feels less good than the way things used to be, so it’s inevitable that we don’t want to stay ‘changed’ forever - hello to why no strict diet ever actually works in the long term! In the end, the chocolate will always win. It always does.
4. We exhaust our mental, financial or time-taking capacity to effect the change - however good they are - and we abandon ship, fast, because the sense of failure is too shameful.
5. We try changing because someone ELSE thinks it is a good idea, but we’re not quite there yet ourselves.
6. We copy someone else’s version of change and we loose ourselves in the process. And then wake up one day, thinking “I can’t do this anymore”, and we give up.
Once we figure out why change hasn’t happened in the past, we know what we need to do to make the changes stick. Changes that you want to make and know are a good idea.
These are the six YES factors for positive change, so we’re not left with the negative above.
1. I fully understand why change is needed.
2. I fully understand the options for how I can make this change.
3. This change feels good, and I’m using a healthy level of guilt, now that I know what I know, to springboard me to upping my game and doing what I want to do.
4. I’ve prioritised the brain space, budget and time to make this change.
5. I don’t care what anyone else is doing. I think this is a good idea and worth prioritising.
6. I’ve seen a few different ways to go about it, but his is the way that resonates with me. I’m going to make it my own.
"At the end of the day, change has to feel good. It can be challenging sure, but to be sustainable it has to feel good."
Alexx Stuart, Low Tox Life
** These points have been extracted from Alexx Stuart's book Low Tox Life ***